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If your meeting notes or lecture handouts have ever sprouted zigzags, spirals, or tiny stick figures, you’re not “spacing out”—you may actually be supporting your brain. Research shows that doodling, those simple marks we often make without much thought, can steady attention, reduce stress, and even strengthen memory. In other words: a few lines in the margins may be doing more for your mental health than you realize. Sharper focus, stronger memory ✏️🧠 A well-known study fro

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